While it may be somewhat common amongst high school girls to participate in backbiting behavior – talking about people behind their backs only to be all smiles and buddy-buddy when the person they were just talking about comes around – you’d expect that type of sophomoric behavior to cease when one reaches adulthood and has a certain amount of moral fiber within their repertoire to better deal with issues with integrity.
Often times, however, that simply isn’t the case. Sadly, it’s easier for some people to behave in a manipulative manner because they’re devoid of ethics, and it requires much less effort to behave like a backstabbing bitch than a mature adult.
Maybe it’s because I have high expectations that I also have such strong opinions regarding duplicitous conduct. Perhaps it is because I am not the type of person to indulge deceptive individuals who possess a dubious agenda after personally witnessing what they’re capable of, or being on the receiving end of it myself.
Those who gossip to you will undoubtedly gossip about you!
I mean, If I genuinely like you as a person and value your friendship, I am not going to talk about you behind your back, nor will I allow others to disparage you in my presence; in fact, I am not the type of friend who would sit idly by and listen to nonsense about you, rather, I would defend you if you weren’t present to defend yourself .
And, if I don’t like you there is a damn good reason, and it makes absolutely no sense then, for me to act as if we’re best buddies should I see you. In all honesty, I prefer not to see you. It seems senseless, to me, to go out of my way to spend time with folks who have proven themselves to be untrustworthy, seedy, and hypocritical.
Don’t get me wrong, I can be civil and conduct myself with dignity and grace should I have no choice but to be in the same room with folks I don’t get along with, but…given the choice, I decline, with pleasure, each and every time. And, it’s not so much about them as it is about me. Life is short and I don’t feel the need to socialize with insincere people. Sometimes it is best to sever all ties with toxic friends so you can make room in your life for the good folks who possess strength of character.
I am an idealist, I know. In my world, everyone would live by The Golden Rule, and have a collective purpose of achieving and demonstrating unity, tranquility, and love.
However, not everyone eats flowers and shits butterflies.
9 comments:
ROFLMAO...girl, I could not have said it better myself! I simply decline to be around, or READ BLOGS of people who are like that. As you said, life is too short and there are too many rainbows to experience without allowing them to steal your pot of gold.
Well said!!
It seems like such a simple thing. Be nice to people. If everyone was nice and treated everyone respectfully, the world would be a much happier place.
But instead, we get wrapped up in ourselves and our own interests/needs/wants and forget that there are other people.
Thank you so much for visiting last week on my SITS day!
I could not possibly agree with you more! :)
Yes, we have to prune our friendships just like a garden needs to be pruned of weeds!
Best,
Irene
About changing your blog name, I did it awhile back, just make your new title and still have your old blog that people go to with the link of your new blog. Have it up for about a week or so.
Just make sure ALL your follower are prepared for the change! Hope this helps!
great post, and something I needed reminding about.
"Those who gossip to you will undoubtedly gossip about you!"
well said.
Dude, who pissed you off? Because I will take that bitch DOWN! ;)
Seriously- good post- all true. I have been surprised by how 'sophomoric' the internet and inter-blogosphere can be. Guess we just hafta ignore tha haters!
Keep on doin whatcha do cuz you ROCK!
Amazing how people never grow up or enlighten themselves, they merely stand in place or what I call "turtle" in life never really moving ahead. Even looking the other way we still find that behavior, I was always taught...you are who you hang out with. So glad I hang with some really cool chicks! Love ya hawt stuff!
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